I have always hated missing out on things. I will go to extreme measures and at times have an overwhelmingly booked schedule to ensure I miss-out on as very little as possible. I also hate making choices…when there are 2 things going on at once and I have to pick one over the other…ugh!!
A good example, probably my best example, of this is December 2001. I started December in New York City...had found an extremely cheap flight and flew up with a friend to stay with my college roommate. On December 10th, I completed a marathon in Honolulu, followed by a week of relaxation in Maui. I went home to Dallas for a bit and attended who knows how many Christmas parties. Not by choice, I also spent a few days working at a client location in East Texas. Then, I spent approximately 4 days over Christmas in San Diego, where my parents were living at the time. San Diego was immediately followed by a few days in Missouri because I just couldn’t go through a Holiday season without time spent with friends in CoMo. From Columbia, I returned to Dallas just in time to catch a flight with friends there to Vegas for New Years. Whew!! What a month! I was crazy…still am.
When I first moved to NYC, missing out on what was going on back in Dallas was very difficult for me. My life in Dallas seemed to consist of a lot of events…weddings, wedding showers, baby showers, birthday parties, etc…. The first few months I was here, it was really difficult to miss those things. There was a wedding I missed soon after I moved up here and I remember crying the day of the wedding. It wasn’t one of my closest friends, but I was still sad to be missing it. Well, over time I seemed to get over not being in Dallas for every occasion. And, I think the invitations have become fewer and further between…although many of my friends still include me on their guest lists, even if they know I can’t be there!
After dealing well with it for the last 2 years, for some reason missing out hit me hard again this week. I was reading my friends, Jennifer & Todd’s blog. She is having their 1st baby this week. I suddenly and very unexpectedly started crying! I was sooo sad that I’m not there to meet the baby this week! Then, I started recalling how I missed their wedding, too. Todd and Jennifer have each been good friends of mine since before they even started dating. I remember the day Jennifer asked me to be part of the “House Party” (or whatever you prefer to call it) and she was talking about the dates and my stomach dropped. It was the same weekend as Maggie’s wedding in Missouri! I was heart-broken and cried that day, too! Luckily, Maggie had been engaged for much longer than J&T and I had long before committed to being at her wedding…there wasn’t a choice to be made and I’m glad I didn’t have to make that decision….I could never have chosen between those two weddings!
So, Jennifer & Todd, this ones for you! Wish I was there to celebrate the arrival of baby “Fifi Gigi” (cannot WAIT to hear the real name). I guess I’ll meet her in due time…
4 comments:
Susan:
A word of encouragement that just came to my heart in reading this.
You can't be at everything, and that's ok. What you always need to make sure of is that you are where God wants you to be - and by doing that, you are never missing out on whatever the greatest thing is He has for you! Stay in tune with where HE leads you and you are going to have a life of adventure!
I'm really glad you were able come to my bachelorette party, even though you moved right afterwards and couldn't come to the wedding. :-)
It's been great keeping up with your adventures via your blog! Did I ever give you a link to mine?
www.myspace.com/bethany1973
Thanks, Nicole! I know. And, luckily, I remember that most of the time which makes tough situations much more bearable.
We can't wait for you to come down and meet her. You are too sweet. We miss you too and I hated that I did not get to see you last time you were in town. Next time you will have a new friend to met. She can't wait to met her "Aunt" Susan!!
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